I will hit my 19th year of
adulthood in a few weeks and still haven’t figured out the dating scene
yet. Out of my 19 years of being an
adult, I’ve been single for almost 12 of those years. You would think as we get older, dating would
be easier, but it’s not. It seems to get
worse!
I’ve experienced all the clichés: lying, cheating and even stealing. As I’ve gotten older, my prayer when I meet
someone new is always, “Lord, give me eyes to see and ears to hear.” Some of them show their true colors quickly
and others take some time to show it.
Each time a relationship fails, makes it
harder to even want to try again. You
walk into a new relationship and things happen making you wonder if you’re
actually getting a red flag or if it’s you being paranoid due to a bad
experience from a previous relationship.
Unfortunately, I sit here single again because
those feelings of hesitancy were just that: red flags. Over the past month as things began to
unravel in my relationship, I found myself experiencing all aspects of grief: I was hurt, mad, angry, in denial….but
why? God did exactly what I asked him to
do! He gave me eyes to see and ears to
hear. Instead of being hurt and angry,
I’m choosing to be thankful that I realized this person wasn’t for me early on
instead of 5 or 10 years down the road when things would be messier and more
complicated.
People are like puzzle pieces. Just because you don’t fit together with
someone doesn’t make you damaged or them a horrible person. It just means they aren’t the piece of the
puzzle that fits with you. Don't force a fit or you'll regret it. When putting
together a puzzle, some pieces are easy to fit together and others take some
time. Enjoy the journey and the hunt for
your piece of the puzzle!
