See & Hear

I will hit my 19^th year of adulthood in a few weeks and still haven’t figured out the dating scene yet.  Out of my 19 years of being an adult, I’ve been single for almost 12 of those years.  You would think as we get older, dating would be easier, but it’s not.  It seems to get worse! 

I’ve experienced all the clichés:  lying, cheating and even stealing.  As I’ve gotten older, my prayer when I meet someone new is always, “Lord, give me eyes to see and ears to hear.”  Some of them show their true colors quickly and others take some time to show it. 

Each time a relationship fails, makes it harder to even want to try again.  You walk into a new relationship and things happen making you wonder if you’re actually getting a red flag or if it’s you being paranoid due to a bad experience from a previous relationship. 

Unfortunately, I sit here single again because those feelings of hesitancy were just that: red flags.  Over the past month as things began to unravel in my relationship, I found myself experiencing all aspects of grief:  I was hurt, mad, angry, in denial….but why?  God did exactly what I asked him to do!  He gave me eyes to see and ears to hear.  Instead of being hurt and angry, I’m choosing to be thankful that I realized this person wasn’t for me early on instead of 5 or 10 years down the road when things would be messier and more complicated. 

People are like puzzle pieces.  Just because you don’t fit together with someone doesn’t make you damaged or them a horrible person.  It just means they aren’t the piece of the puzzle that fits with you.  Don't force a fit or you'll regret it.  When putting together a puzzle, some pieces are easy to fit together and others take some time.  Enjoy the journey and the hunt for your piece of the puzzle!